Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 12, 2004, 12:11:45 pm
I have 4 children. Two kids in college one in high school and a forth grader. I love my kids intensely but I recognized last night that while I have spent time with my children, hugged them fed them helped them with their homework, I hadn't looked them in the eyes lately and told them that they are wonderful, or told them that they are amazing and can do anything. So last night I did just that. The response I got was mixed.
My oldest (my daughter) told me that she thought I was wonderful too, then thanked me for the reminder.
My oldest son asked me if I had hit my head on something and went back to doing his homework (with a smile on his face though).
My high-schooler told me that he was quite aware that he was all that AND a bag of chips and wondered why I was just figureing that out.
My youngest just smiled and cuddled with me for a very long time.
The point?
Kindness, self appreciation and appreciation for others begins at home. I just wanted to remind those parents out there the same thing that I was reminded of last night. It isn't enough to assume that your kids know that they are remarkable human beings, unique with a lot to offer the world. Sometimes you need to take a moment and drive the point home.
BTW, this isn?t just for kids. Have you told a friend or co-worker something nice out of the blue lately? Who knows you may be inspiring greatness by doing so.
I wanted to thank the person who helped me remember this so I thought the best way to do that was to pass it on.
Ann
P.S. you may now scrape the cheesy fluff off of your monitor.
Post by: Toasty0 on February 12, 2004, 12:38:21 pm
Very nicely said Ann. All of us should consider your post.
Best,
Jerry
Post by: TalonClaw on February 12, 2004, 01:23:37 pm
Quote:
I looked my 18 year old in the eye last night and offered to buy him a travel bag. Does that count?
Very nicely said Ann. All of us should consider your post.
Best,
Jerry
Perhaps a bit of quality time could turn that around. But 18, hormones going absolutely nuts, wanting to be independent but still have your Dad proud of you. Pushing the limits and testing Mom and Dad's authority. Girls, peer pressure. Lots going on there. You may have roughness between you but with most kids deep down they appreciate your attention. Maybe try taking him away on a trip to a neutral place and spend time with him.
I've got 4 kids. I'm lucky the oldest are girls more interested in school than being bad girls. My son's main concern is how to take out Germany before they get V2 rockets in Empire Dawn of the Modern world. My son still thinks I'm a hero. I hope that lasts a while.
Post by: Sirgod on February 12, 2004, 01:25:35 pm
Stephen
Post by: Sethan on February 12, 2004, 01:37:54 pm
I'm going to put a link to this over in Hot and Spicy. It isn't hot and spicy - but I think a lot of the people there who don't visit here could get some benefit from it.
Post by: Blyre on February 12, 2004, 01:46:08 pm
However, I do have friends and I always try to let them know how much they are appreciated. The responses are well worth the effort.
Wallace
Post by: Sirgod on February 12, 2004, 01:47:43 pm
Quote:
That was a wonderful post, Ann, and I thank you for writing it. I don't have any children yet, but when the day comes that that happens, I will remember your words and use them.
However, I do have friends and I always try to let them know how much they are appreciated. The responses are well worth the effort.
Wallace
Amen to that Big Brother.
Stephen
Post by: Scott Allen Abfalter on February 12, 2004, 02:16:20 pm
Wonderful sentiments. Parents really do need to take that extra time, it's worth far more than they realize.
Post by: NJAntman on February 12, 2004, 05:36:50 pm
I'll miss that when kindergarten starts; hope I remember your post next Wednesday, I'll give him an extra hug.
Post by: Spirit on February 12, 2004, 06:51:53 pm
Ann,
Thank you so much for your inspirational words. I, like many, tend to focus on the hardships and stresses of everyday life, and often forget the important things: family and friends. Thanks for your quick post to remind me
Quote:
P.S. you may now scrape the cheesy fluff off of your monitor.
You know, I tried...I really did. But it seems kinda stuck on....
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 12, 2004, 06:59:49 pm
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So much for encouraging him...I think he is getting a bit too big for his breaches.
HAHAHHAHAHHAA
thank you for your feedback, it's good to know that I am not the only one trying to keep perspective.
Ann
Post by: Capt Jeff on February 13, 2004, 05:41:23 am
I think the reverse can be said as well. I think it's really rewarding to a parent to have a adult child tell them their love and care is appreciated.
I visit my parents once a week for a few hours (they live in the next town about 30 miles from me). On one visit, something special happened. As I was walking out the door towards my car, we were talking about playing the lottery which had grown into the 100's of millions. I said " I wish I could win all that money". And she asked "what would you do with all that money?" I said " I would hire the best doctors in the world". "For what", she said. I responded back by saying " So they can learn how to keep you alive forever, as I can't imagine living a day without you being here for me".
She burst into tears. I will never ever forget that moment....
Post by: Sirgod on February 13, 2004, 09:06:15 am
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So what's are your kids names again?
Stephen
Post by: Sethan on February 13, 2004, 09:41:59 am
Quote:
Great words of advice. I'll keep them in mind as I don't have any children yet
It isn't just kids to parents or parents to kids. Every day we meet and deal with people who have an effect on our lives. Take a moment to think about who the special ones are - and tell them so.
You never know when that will be just what they needed to hear at that particular moment.
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 13, 2004, 11:31:16 am
Quote:
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So what's are your kids names again?
Stephen
I have never use their names on anything important, now I guess I will never use their names at all
Post by: Scott Allen Abfalter on February 13, 2004, 12:46:18 pm
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
Post by: Sethan on February 13, 2004, 12:54:00 pm
Quote:
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
That all depends on how it is done. A password I once used had its origins in the german name for the song 'Ninety-Nine red balloons'.
The password I used was 99luft*
Not too many pssword cracking programs were going to pick that one up, and nobody was going to guess it.
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 13, 2004, 01:24:56 pm
Quote:
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
This is a dev system not accessable to the outside. No worries.
Post by: Toasty0 on February 13, 2004, 10:04:41 pm
Quote:
Came home a bit early from work today to find that my son had hacked into my computer. I set a challenge for him to see if he could get past my defenses. He did (or so I thought). He rewarded me by changing all of the paths to my shortcuts so they open the wrong files or programs...VERY funny (she says with a great deal of sarcasm).
Man, that kid rocks!!
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
Now that's a kid who knows you love him.
Quote:
So much for encouraging him...I think he is getting a bit too big for his breaches.
HAHAHHAHAHHAA
thank you for your feedback, it's good to know that I am not the only one trying to keep perspective.
Ann
Perspective and children? Is that another parenting oxymoron?
Post by: KRolling on February 18, 2004, 08:52:16 am
You are a wonderful person.
I really appreciate you.
<billy crystal voice> You look MARVELOUS!! !</billy crystal voice>
You're good enough, you're smart enough, and dog gone it, people like you!!!!!
PS. Good post, Ann.
Post by: ActiveX on February 18, 2004, 04:24:21 pm
Quote:
<run into bathroom, leans over the sink, and looks intensely at mirror>
You are a wonderful person.
I really appreciate you.
<billy crystal voice> You look MARVELOUS!! !</billy crystal voice>
You're good enough, you're smart enough, and dog gone it, people like you!!!!!
PS. Good post, Ann.
<runs into the kitchen, pulls out teh roxxor pin>
Woot! Joo is teh leet!
And on a more serious note, the power of support and affirmative reinforcement is very powerful indeed...
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 12, 2004, 12:11:45 pm
I have 4 children. Two kids in college one in high school and a forth grader. I love my kids intensely but I recognized last night that while I have spent time with my children, hugged them fed them helped them with their homework, I hadn't looked them in the eyes lately and told them that they are wonderful, or told them that they are amazing and can do anything. So last night I did just that. The response I got was mixed.
My oldest (my daughter) told me that she thought I was wonderful too, then thanked me for the reminder.
My oldest son asked me if I had hit my head on something and went back to doing his homework (with a smile on his face though).
My high-schooler told me that he was quite aware that he was all that AND a bag of chips and wondered why I was just figureing that out.
My youngest just smiled and cuddled with me for a very long time.
The point?
Kindness, self appreciation and appreciation for others begins at home. I just wanted to remind those parents out there the same thing that I was reminded of last night. It isn't enough to assume that your kids know that they are remarkable human beings, unique with a lot to offer the world. Sometimes you need to take a moment and drive the point home.
BTW, this isn?t just for kids. Have you told a friend or co-worker something nice out of the blue lately? Who knows you may be inspiring greatness by doing so.
I wanted to thank the person who helped me remember this so I thought the best way to do that was to pass it on.
Ann
P.S. you may now scrape the cheesy fluff off of your monitor.
Post by: Toasty0 on February 12, 2004, 12:38:21 pm
Very nicely said Ann. All of us should consider your post.
Best,
Jerry
Post by: TalonClaw on February 12, 2004, 01:23:37 pm
Quote:
I looked my 18 year old in the eye last night and offered to buy him a travel bag. Does that count?
Very nicely said Ann. All of us should consider your post.
Best,
Jerry
Perhaps a bit of quality time could turn that around. But 18, hormones going absolutely nuts, wanting to be independent but still have your Dad proud of you. Pushing the limits and testing Mom and Dad's authority. Girls, peer pressure. Lots going on there. You may have roughness between you but with most kids deep down they appreciate your attention. Maybe try taking him away on a trip to a neutral place and spend time with him.
I've got 4 kids. I'm lucky the oldest are girls more interested in school than being bad girls. My son's main concern is how to take out Germany before they get V2 rockets in Empire Dawn of the Modern world. My son still thinks I'm a hero. I hope that lasts a while.
Post by: Sirgod on February 12, 2004, 01:25:35 pm
Stephen
Post by: Sethan on February 12, 2004, 01:37:54 pm
I'm going to put a link to this over in Hot and Spicy. It isn't hot and spicy - but I think a lot of the people there who don't visit here could get some benefit from it.
Post by: Blyre on February 12, 2004, 01:46:08 pm
However, I do have friends and I always try to let them know how much they are appreciated. The responses are well worth the effort.
Wallace
Post by: Sirgod on February 12, 2004, 01:47:43 pm
Quote:
That was a wonderful post, Ann, and I thank you for writing it. I don't have any children yet, but when the day comes that that happens, I will remember your words and use them.
However, I do have friends and I always try to let them know how much they are appreciated. The responses are well worth the effort.
Wallace
Amen to that Big Brother.
Stephen
Post by: Scott Allen Abfalter on February 12, 2004, 02:16:20 pm
Wonderful sentiments. Parents really do need to take that extra time, it's worth far more than they realize.
Post by: NJAntman on February 12, 2004, 05:36:50 pm
I'll miss that when kindergarten starts; hope I remember your post next Wednesday, I'll give him an extra hug.
Post by: Spirit on February 12, 2004, 06:51:53 pm
Ann,
Thank you so much for your inspirational words. I, like many, tend to focus on the hardships and stresses of everyday life, and often forget the important things: family and friends. Thanks for your quick post to remind me
Quote:
P.S. you may now scrape the cheesy fluff off of your monitor.
You know, I tried...I really did. But it seems kinda stuck on....
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 12, 2004, 06:59:49 pm
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So much for encouraging him...I think he is getting a bit too big for his breaches.
HAHAHHAHAHHAA
thank you for your feedback, it's good to know that I am not the only one trying to keep perspective.
Ann
Post by: Capt Jeff on February 13, 2004, 05:41:23 am
I think the reverse can be said as well. I think it's really rewarding to a parent to have a adult child tell them their love and care is appreciated.
I visit my parents once a week for a few hours (they live in the next town about 30 miles from me). On one visit, something special happened. As I was walking out the door towards my car, we were talking about playing the lottery which had grown into the 100's of millions. I said " I wish I could win all that money". And she asked "what would you do with all that money?" I said " I would hire the best doctors in the world". "For what", she said. I responded back by saying " So they can learn how to keep you alive forever, as I can't imagine living a day without you being here for me".
She burst into tears. I will never ever forget that moment....
Post by: Sirgod on February 13, 2004, 09:06:15 am
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So what's are your kids names again?
Stephen
Post by: Sethan on February 13, 2004, 09:41:59 am
Quote:
Great words of advice. I'll keep them in mind as I don't have any children yet
It isn't just kids to parents or parents to kids. Every day we meet and deal with people who have an effect on our lives. Take a moment to think about who the special ones are - and tell them so.
You never know when that will be just what they needed to hear at that particular moment.
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 13, 2004, 11:31:16 am
Quote:
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So what's are your kids names again?
Stephen
I have never use their names on anything important, now I guess I will never use their names at all
Post by: Scott Allen Abfalter on February 13, 2004, 12:46:18 pm
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
Post by: Sethan on February 13, 2004, 12:54:00 pm
Quote:
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
That all depends on how it is done. A password I once used had its origins in the german name for the song 'Ninety-Nine red balloons'.
The password I used was 99luft*
Not too many pssword cracking programs were going to pick that one up, and nobody was going to guess it.
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 13, 2004, 01:24:56 pm
Quote:
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
This is a dev system not accessable to the outside. No worries.
Post by: Toasty0 on February 13, 2004, 10:04:41 pm
Quote:
Came home a bit early from work today to find that my son had hacked into my computer. I set a challenge for him to see if he could get past my defenses. He did (or so I thought). He rewarded me by changing all of the paths to my shortcuts so they open the wrong files or programs...VERY funny (she says with a great deal of sarcasm).
Man, that kid rocks!!
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
Now that's a kid who knows you love him.
Quote:
So much for encouraging him...I think he is getting a bit too big for his breaches.
HAHAHHAHAHHAA
thank you for your feedback, it's good to know that I am not the only one trying to keep perspective.
Ann
Perspective and children? Is that another parenting oxymoron?
Post by: KRolling on February 18, 2004, 08:52:16 am
You are a wonderful person.
I really appreciate you.
<billy crystal voice> You look MARVELOUS!! !</billy crystal voice>
You're good enough, you're smart enough, and dog gone it, people like you!!!!!
PS. Good post, Ann.
Post by: ActiveX on February 18, 2004, 04:24:21 pm
Quote:
<run into bathroom, leans over the sink, and looks intensely at mirror>
You are a wonderful person.
I really appreciate you.
<billy crystal voice> You look MARVELOUS!! !</billy crystal voice>
You're good enough, you're smart enough, and dog gone it, people like you!!!!!
PS. Good post, Ann.
<runs into the kitchen, pulls out teh roxxor pin>
Woot! Joo is teh leet!
And on a more serious note, the power of support and affirmative reinforcement is very powerful indeed...
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 12, 2004, 12:11:45 pm
I have 4 children. Two kids in college one in high school and a forth grader. I love my kids intensely but I recognized last night that while I have spent time with my children, hugged them fed them helped them with their homework, I hadn't looked them in the eyes lately and told them that they are wonderful, or told them that they are amazing and can do anything. So last night I did just that. The response I got was mixed.
My oldest (my daughter) told me that she thought I was wonderful too, then thanked me for the reminder.
My oldest son asked me if I had hit my head on something and went back to doing his homework (with a smile on his face though).
My high-schooler told me that he was quite aware that he was all that AND a bag of chips and wondered why I was just figureing that out.
My youngest just smiled and cuddled with me for a very long time.
The point?
Kindness, self appreciation and appreciation for others begins at home. I just wanted to remind those parents out there the same thing that I was reminded of last night. It isn't enough to assume that your kids know that they are remarkable human beings, unique with a lot to offer the world. Sometimes you need to take a moment and drive the point home.
BTW, this isn?t just for kids. Have you told a friend or co-worker something nice out of the blue lately? Who knows you may be inspiring greatness by doing so.
I wanted to thank the person who helped me remember this so I thought the best way to do that was to pass it on.
Ann
P.S. you may now scrape the cheesy fluff off of your monitor.
Post by: Toasty0 on February 12, 2004, 12:38:21 pm
Very nicely said Ann. All of us should consider your post.
Best,
Jerry
Post by: TalonClaw on February 12, 2004, 01:23:37 pm
Quote:
I looked my 18 year old in the eye last night and offered to buy him a travel bag. Does that count?
Very nicely said Ann. All of us should consider your post.
Best,
Jerry
Perhaps a bit of quality time could turn that around. But 18, hormones going absolutely nuts, wanting to be independent but still have your Dad proud of you. Pushing the limits and testing Mom and Dad's authority. Girls, peer pressure. Lots going on there. You may have roughness between you but with most kids deep down they appreciate your attention. Maybe try taking him away on a trip to a neutral place and spend time with him.
I've got 4 kids. I'm lucky the oldest are girls more interested in school than being bad girls. My son's main concern is how to take out Germany before they get V2 rockets in Empire Dawn of the Modern world. My son still thinks I'm a hero. I hope that lasts a while.
Post by: Sirgod on February 12, 2004, 01:25:35 pm
Stephen
Post by: Sethan on February 12, 2004, 01:37:54 pm
I'm going to put a link to this over in Hot and Spicy. It isn't hot and spicy - but I think a lot of the people there who don't visit here could get some benefit from it.
Post by: Blyre on February 12, 2004, 01:46:08 pm
However, I do have friends and I always try to let them know how much they are appreciated. The responses are well worth the effort.
Wallace
Post by: Sirgod on February 12, 2004, 01:47:43 pm
Quote:
That was a wonderful post, Ann, and I thank you for writing it. I don't have any children yet, but when the day comes that that happens, I will remember your words and use them.
However, I do have friends and I always try to let them know how much they are appreciated. The responses are well worth the effort.
Wallace
Amen to that Big Brother.
Stephen
Post by: Scott Allen Abfalter on February 12, 2004, 02:16:20 pm
Wonderful sentiments. Parents really do need to take that extra time, it's worth far more than they realize.
Post by: NJAntman on February 12, 2004, 05:36:50 pm
I'll miss that when kindergarten starts; hope I remember your post next Wednesday, I'll give him an extra hug.
Post by: Spirit on February 12, 2004, 06:51:53 pm
Ann,
Thank you so much for your inspirational words. I, like many, tend to focus on the hardships and stresses of everyday life, and often forget the important things: family and friends. Thanks for your quick post to remind me
Quote:
P.S. you may now scrape the cheesy fluff off of your monitor.
You know, I tried...I really did. But it seems kinda stuck on....
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 12, 2004, 06:59:49 pm
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So much for encouraging him...I think he is getting a bit too big for his breaches.
HAHAHHAHAHHAA
thank you for your feedback, it's good to know that I am not the only one trying to keep perspective.
Ann
Post by: Capt Jeff on February 13, 2004, 05:41:23 am
I think the reverse can be said as well. I think it's really rewarding to a parent to have a adult child tell them their love and care is appreciated.
I visit my parents once a week for a few hours (they live in the next town about 30 miles from me). On one visit, something special happened. As I was walking out the door towards my car, we were talking about playing the lottery which had grown into the 100's of millions. I said " I wish I could win all that money". And she asked "what would you do with all that money?" I said " I would hire the best doctors in the world". "For what", she said. I responded back by saying " So they can learn how to keep you alive forever, as I can't imagine living a day without you being here for me".
She burst into tears. I will never ever forget that moment....
Post by: Sirgod on February 13, 2004, 09:06:15 am
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So what's are your kids names again?
Stephen
Post by: Sethan on February 13, 2004, 09:41:59 am
Quote:
Great words of advice. I'll keep them in mind as I don't have any children yet
It isn't just kids to parents or parents to kids. Every day we meet and deal with people who have an effect on our lives. Take a moment to think about who the special ones are - and tell them so.
You never know when that will be just what they needed to hear at that particular moment.
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 13, 2004, 11:31:16 am
Quote:
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
So what's are your kids names again?
Stephen
I have never use their names on anything important, now I guess I will never use their names at all
Post by: Scott Allen Abfalter on February 13, 2004, 12:46:18 pm
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
Post by: Sethan on February 13, 2004, 12:54:00 pm
Quote:
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
That all depends on how it is done. A password I once used had its origins in the german name for the song 'Ninety-Nine red balloons'.
The password I used was 99luft*
Not too many pssword cracking programs were going to pick that one up, and nobody was going to guess it.
Post by: Taldren_Admin on February 13, 2004, 01:24:56 pm
Quote:
Names as passwords is a very bad idea.....
This is a dev system not accessable to the outside. No worries.
Post by: Toasty0 on February 13, 2004, 10:04:41 pm
Quote:
Came home a bit early from work today to find that my son had hacked into my computer. I set a challenge for him to see if he could get past my defenses. He did (or so I thought). He rewarded me by changing all of the paths to my shortcuts so they open the wrong files or programs...VERY funny (she says with a great deal of sarcasm).
Man, that kid rocks!!
Quote:
So I asked him how he did it. He mumbled the things he tried and failed then said that he simply figured out my password. His name.
Now that's a kid who knows you love him.
Quote:
So much for encouraging him...I think he is getting a bit too big for his breaches.
HAHAHHAHAHHAA
thank you for your feedback, it's good to know that I am not the only one trying to keep perspective.
Ann
Perspective and children? Is that another parenting oxymoron?
Post by: KRolling on February 18, 2004, 08:52:16 am
You are a wonderful person.
I really appreciate you.
<billy crystal voice> You look MARVELOUS!! !</billy crystal voice>
You're good enough, you're smart enough, and dog gone it, people like you!!!!!
PS. Good post, Ann.
Post by: ActiveX on February 18, 2004, 04:24:21 pm
Quote:
<run into bathroom, leans over the sink, and looks intensely at mirror>
You are a wonderful person.
I really appreciate you.
<billy crystal voice> You look MARVELOUS!! !</billy crystal voice>
You're good enough, you're smart enough, and dog gone it, people like you!!!!!
PS. Good post, Ann.
<runs into the kitchen, pulls out teh roxxor pin>
Woot! Joo is teh leet!
And on a more serious note, the power of support and affirmative reinforcement is very powerful indeed...